I wonder how many of us have already fallen back into the old routine that we promised to leave behind with the end of 2023. I am not sure that any of us really truly know what is going on in our world anymore. The pace of change is at a speed that is incredibly elusive, we try to hold on, it is just next to impossible. I watch people striving to make money, others doing everything they can do just to slow the spinning down and most of us are holding on for dear life every day. Yes, the machine of life rages on.
What tools are we utilizing to help us get to where we want to be in the future? Some of us have a plan and a direction that we have set forth in our lives. Huge events that will define our year. I spoke with my daughter earlier today and we were talking about her writing skills. She told me that she does not do much writing anymore, that she is focusing on a smaller number of things, with her career path at the very top of the list. She also has her wedding coming up later in the year, so that is one of those HUGE events I mentioned earlier and it will be something that defines her year. When we finished our chat, I felt confident that she had a good grasp on the year ahead.
Now I am not one of the most organized people in the world, so many of the challenges that I experience are self-inflicted. When you add that to the complexities of life in 2024 the results can be disastrous. SO I have come up with five simple things that we can all do that will have a more positive effect on our year.
There are certain areas of our lives that when something happens we have this burning feeling in our gut that is shouting at us, and too often, we ignore it. If it is saying “NO” to somebody or saying “YES” to somebody, we usually do not act on our instinct. We start to rationalize it, dissect the issue or ask for outside influence. All of those things are good in their own time and place, it is just that too often, our own gut instinct is the best line for us to take. So this year, try to trust your own instincts at times.
One of my biggest challenges. I really do not like to let people down so I will tend to overpromise or try to do the impossible if someone asks for it. The only thing that happens is that I usually let them down and stress myself to my limits in trying not to. Included in this is saying exactly what you mean. I do not suggest that you be rude or obnoxious, yet there are times when we say things that box ourselves into a corner solely because we are trying to please the other person. Make it a habit to face the fear of the tough conversation, in the long run, you will be less stressed and more highly respected.
There are certain things in this life that we can control and those things we cannot. Learning to define those is an art for some people and a bottomless pit for those that cannot. To be informed as to what is going on in our world is important, to be immersed in the drama of the world can be dangerous. I try to avoid the news as much as possible. I have learned to go to certain places where I can get the facts without the opinions of others. Centering on those things I can control has brought a fresher feel to my life and my blood pressure spends more time at the lower end of the spectrum.
In my line of work, I get to hear many people talk about their lives, their ups, and downs. One of the items that always grabs my attention is how some people speak negatively about themselves as a person. Now I am sure that all of us have a few qualities that we would like to improve on when it comes to who we are, but you do not have to broadcast your shortcomings to others over and over. Learn to speak highly of yourself, accentuate the positive parts of your personality and who you are. Our minds tend to lean towards the most dominant thoughts, so if you are constantly talking yourself down, you are in essence, paving the way for that behavior. By learning to live one day at a time, you can learn to eat healthier, think healthier and be healthier. If you have a bad day, put it behind you and start the next day with a clean slate.
The pace of life can suck us into a certain lifestyle. So many of us get to the point that we are working to survive or living without purpose just waiting for that final breath. The rigors of life can be harsh and can push us offline and into a rut that we cannot get out of. Evaluate the things you want in your life, and then educate yourself on how to achieve them. Of course staying within reality is a must, because dreams that are not realistic can have a negative affect on us. Still, on the other hand, challenge yourself to goals that are realistic, ones that push your limits.
The calendar gives us this “End of the year” feel and the “Start of a new”, in reality, our bodies don’t know the difference. So if you get off target in the first month or the second, big deal, every day is a new opportunity for a fresh start. Because it says January or April makes no difference, you are an incredible creature that God put on this earth and today is the best day to start living the life you deserve!
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